Acceptance is the key.

So many times we encounter experiences in our lives that are not what we envisioned for our lives. I'm talking about those things or events that knock us for a loop, take us by surprise, or take over in a way that is completely not in our control. I am talking about things like illness, infertility, loss of a loved one, being cheated on. These kinds of things, can make one feel like life is punishing or judging us, sending one in to a frenzy of "Why Me??" and "What have I done to deserve this?" or "LIfe is so unfair?". There is a deep temptation to feel like a victim and that there is some ominous punishing plan out there that one is just the victim of.

Let us not kid ourselves, these thing are initially horrifying and we need to go through the proper grief period. And frankly there is no way around the mountain of pain. You need to first feel it in order to move past it. And do take your time with that crucial process. But it does not need to take you down. And getting support through this period is essential. Truly, as I see it, if life were about fairness as opposed to lessons and growth, then all the good people would be rich and all the bad people would be poor. This is simply not the case. Instead, those who focus on wealth become wealthy and those who focus on poverty don't. And then some folks just came into life inheriting money. Life just brings us what we put out and then added to that, there is that other mysterious element that is brought to our life. That is what we are here to accomplish. What we were born to do in this life time that we, pre-birth, agreed to in order to maximize our journey. I believe we agreed to every obstacle and every event in our life. I believe that we even agreed to whom our parents would be. Then once born we are in charge of how we react to life's events.

So, acceptance is what is left for us to do since we are not in control of everything. Remember life is co-creative not just creative. We are responsible for what we put out and what we think and how we react to the events, but the Universe has also got a hand in delivering to us what we have pre-birth agreed to have in our life. And since there is a vail of amnesia hiding that aspect of our journey, we don't necessarily remember that which we agreed to. We don't recall consciously those growth opportunity obstacles that we agreed to allow into our life. Meditation and introspection will help you remember some of the pre-birth agreements. I invite you to find out through introspection, what your pre-birth agreements are. Get a sense of what you agreed to bring into this lifetime in order for you to grow and improve as a soul. I also encourage you to ask what the unexpected event in this lifetime is doing for you? What are you learning from the experience? For example in the case of illness, ask yourself, "How is this illness benefiting me? What is it teaching me? What can I learn about myself from this illness that I would not otherwise have learned?"

Engaging in this type of dialogue with self will assist you to feel empowered again in the face of these sometimes terrifying unexpected events. You will begin to override the victim feeling through this process. Stay focused, stay positive and stay self loving.

Blessings, Victoria